This post is pulled from a recent coaching call with my group coaching clients about how body composition change actually works when you stop chasing tactics and start respecting phases.
We talked about why so many women feel like they’re always dieting, why it takes them 12 months to lose weight that could have been handled much faster, and what shifts when you stop blending everything together.
This short clip comes from that conversation, where we were talking about why fat loss drags on for so long when it doesn’t have to.
Here’s the bigger point that came out of that conversation.
The Problem With a Blurry Strategy
Most women I talk to aren’t confused because they’re lazy. They’re confused because they’ve been fed a story that body change is supposed to look like one long, vague “fat loss journey.”
So they’re always kind of dieting.
Always kind of “getting back on track.”
Always kind of trying to lose the same 10–30 pounds.
And because it’s never clear what they’re doing or why, everything becomes blurry and random.
It’s just this low-grade, ongoing attempt to be in fat loss without ever clearly being in fat loss.
And when you live there long enough, it’s exhausting because nothing ever feels finished. It’s a constant open-loop.
Your Body Is Simpler Than You’ve Been Led to Believe
Your body is not doing ten things at once.
At any one time, from a nutrition standpoint, you’re basically in one of three situations:
-you’re eating in a deficit
-you’re eating at maintenance
-or you’re eating in a surplus.
That’s it. Those are the only three lanes.
And yet most women are trying to force transformation while living in what I call “sort of” land.
Sort of in a deficit. Sort of maintaining. Sort of building muscle. Sort of resting. Sort of disciplined. Sort of social.
It feels balanced, flexible, reasonable but it does not produce clear results.
What actually changes the body is committing to a phase long enough for it to do its job, then moving into the next phase on purpose. Not forever and not perfect, just intentional.
Because when you don’t respect phases, you don’t just slow your progress down. You end up right back in the loop you swore you were done with.
The One Shift for Different Results
If you’ve been “trying to lose weight” for a long time, you probably don’t need more time.
You don’t need another trick, hack or more rules. You don’t need to stretch this into a year to prove you’re serious.
You need to stop living like fat loss is a lifestyle.
You need one clear objective at a time, a plan you can actually commit to… And the willingness to stay in it long enough for it to work.
And it doesn’t mean perfection, isolation or not enjoying your life. It means you stop negotiating with the plan every time something comes up.
You stay the course and you move forward.
If you want different results, you have to be open to doing this differently because the truth is…
body change isn’t supposed to take forever.
